In honor of Valentine’s Day, we decided to ask one of our beauty writers, Monet Atencio, and her boyfriend of over two years, Spencer Bailey, a series of questions about their relationship, and of course, what their plans are for Valentine’s Day.
- How long have you guys been together?
Monet Atencio (MA): We have been together for a little over two years. We had our two-year this last November.
Spencer Bailey (SB): Monet and I have been together for 2 years, 2 months now
- How did you two meet?
MA: We met originally sophomore year of high school at a lock-in event. We hung out most of the night and I went home with his hoodie. I then showed interest in him, and he didn’t seem to reciprocate the feelings in which we’ve now figured out was only because he was completely oblivious (not much has changed there). We then went to high school together as not much more than acquaintances and locker neighbors. When senior year came around, we “met” for a second time at a friend’s get together and hit it off instantly between our common love for pop-punk band, Blink 182, and conversing over an entire pizza. Since that day—November 3 as he seems to remember it—a day hasn’t gone by that he and I haven’t talked.
SB: We originally met at some lock-in when we were sophomores, we hung out all night and I actually really liked her by the end but I screwed all of that up. I was still scared of girls and didn’t know how to talk to her again after that night. I saw her again at a party at a mutual friend’s house during our senior year of high school and immediately knew I had to have her. I normally didn’t pursue girls because it just seemed like a waste of time, but something about her caught my eye and I couldn’t not have her.
- Who made the first move?
MA: I would actually say he did, which we are both still shocked by to this day. He got my number, he asked me out (way sooner than I was expecting), and he made efforts to hang out with me. Spencer wasn’t the type to go for girls before me, and he still had some learning to do. Luckily, I too, was persistent and we became best friends.
SB: I would say I made the first move, on that night at the party our senior year. However, after that night, I almost did the same thing I did my sophomore year and lost her again. Luckily it just made her think I was playing hard to get so it made her want to be with me more.
- Describe your ideal Valentine’s Day date.
MA: My ideal Valentine’s date is nothing crazy and nothing most would expect on Valentine’s Day. He knows better than anyone that I am not a fan of Valentine’s Day and honestly think the whole thing is just a little overdone. My ideal date would be something creative and different than the typical fancy dinner date. I would honestly rather build a fort at home and watch movies all night with my best friend (Spencer) and pig out on finger foods.
SB: My ideal valentines date would be relatively stereotypical. I’d like to get dressed up really nice and go to some super fancy restaurant with Monet, and spend a bunch of money on food I can’t pronounce. Honestly I’d be happy with whatever Monet was happy with, since I just want to make her happy. So we’d probably end up on the couch watching Netflix with some pizza.
- Of the two of you, who is the romantic?
MA: 100% Spencer. For not having much experience with girls prior to me, he sure knows how to win a girl over and take things over the top. Spencer is the type to bring me flowers for no reason, light candles for dinner, tell me how he feels about me a million times a day, and to top it off—I got asked to prom with the most adorable and cliché rock to my window, lights spelling out prom, and Spencer singing and playing ukulele to me.
I have never been one for gushy love letters and cutesy things, but can’t say I would ever complain. I have what a lot of girls dream of. I would say I have a romantic side every once in awhile, but in most cases, I don’t know how to take his gushy words and actions.
SB: Probably me, but Monet acts like she isn’t at all, but I know she secretly is. She’s just too embarrassed to admit it.
- Chocolate or flowers?
MA: For me, flowers. Believe it or not, I am not a fan of chocolate. Whenever Spencer gets me any snacks it’s usually Pizza Lunchables, Capri Suns, Goldfish, or a jar of pickles…. I know, strange.
SB: Flowers. She doesn’t like chocolate. I don’t think she’s a real girl.
- Favorite rom com?
MA: My favorite rom com would have to be “Friends with Benefits” simply because it’s cute, but not overly cutesy. I’m not the biggest fan of love movies.
SB: I’m just going to say “Sex Tape” since that’s the only one I can think of. If it even is one
- What do you consider a Valentine’s Day cliché
MA: Valentine’s Day in general is a cliché in itself. The overpriced flowers, chocolates, over sized stuffed animals. I’m mostly bothered by the idea that people go all out to show off their significant other when any other day is just as good of an excuse minus the long lines and to me, a bit of fakeness to the whole thing.
SB: Flowers, chocolates, stuffed bear, basically everything I’ve done and want to do.
- Worst Valentine’s Day memory?
MA: My worst Valentine’s Day memory was probably my first Valentine’s Day spent with Spencer… that sounds bad. It wasn’t at all because of Spencer; it was because he planned to give me flowers, and jewelry and such and was bringing it to school to surprise me. But unfortunately, on my way to school, I ran out of gas and he had to come pick me up and there was no surprising me at that point.
SB: Basically every Valentine’s Day before I started dating Monet was the same: single, bored, and didn’t really care.
- Favorite date-night spot?
MA: I hate to admit that I live in a town with the most restaurants per capita, and yet every single time Spencer and I have gone out to eat, we have ended up at Olive Garden or Red Lobster. I tend to get stuck on things. I would also have to say just at my apartment when we make dinner together or anything like that.
SB: Monet sucks at dates. I always try to bring her to cool or new places to eat and she just wants to go to Olive Garden or Red Lobster. I’m not complaining it just makes us seem boring.
- Perfect date night outfit?
MA: My favorite part of dates has to be getting all dolled up, deciding what I’m going to wear and what kind of makeup. I’m a fan of dresses. I honestly just love vibrant and different looking dresses with some booties and I call that good.
SB: I really just like wearing a button up shirt, a tie, and khakis, so probably that. I don’t know why, I just feel so much better in that.
- Favorite kind of gift to give your significant other.
MA: I love giving gifts. Gift giving is probably one of the only times that you could call me the romantic of the relationship. I like to get crafty and really personalized with whatever gift I choose to give. I usually plan my gift ideas months in advance. Spencer always wants new car parts, but unfortunately for him, that always seemed boring to me. I don’t like just getting a link sent to me of some part that I’ve never even heard of. I would much rather it be a gift that’s personal for him and obviously from me.
SB: Jewelry, makeup or clothes. I have a girlfriend that is really into girly things, so I have it pretty easy in terms of giving her gifts.
- Favorite thing you’ve done together during the course of your relationship?
MA: I like to think that Spencer and I have had a very fun and spontaneous relationship. We have the side of going out and doing fun things, but we also have the best friend side where we’ve stayed in all day in sweats and t-shirts. We have gone to Disney World together, Vegas, backpack camping, Florida, a million concerts, and tons of hours in front of Netflix. Although my favorite thing we’ve done together has to be what we chose to do for our two-year anniversary. We road- tripped to California and did all things touristy—Disney, Venice Beach, Hollywood, Santa Monica, and much more. I loved that trip because I spent 17 hours in a car with him there and then back and spent the entire week with my favorite person, having non-stop fun.
SB: By far my favorite thing is the road trip we took. It was the first trip that both of us took as adults, and we went to California and did a bunch of stuff that both of us love. We got to go to Disney for her, and one of the biggest car shows in the world for me.
- What’s on your couples “bucket list”? What have you always wanted to do as a couple?
MA: Road tripping was definitely the biggest thing on our list for a while. Though now that we’ve done that, I’m pretty sure it’s safe to say we would love to take many more. I would also say we would like to attend many more concerts, being the music lovers we are (especially Ariana Grande as we both share the same love for her). I’m sure we would love to finish many more Netflix series as well.
SB: We don’t actually have like a specific bucket list, but we are definitely planning on going on plenty more road trips, and going to a ton of more concerts. I know Monet wants to go to New York, so I would like to figure out a way for us to go there, but I haven’t told her that yet.
- What are your plans for Valentine’s Day this year?
MA: Being the Valentine’s Day Scrooge of this relationship, Spencer has asked me numerous times what I would like to do, and I have yet to give him any sort of answer. Knowing him, he will probably plan something like a romantic dinner, and I’ll go along with it all just to make him happy.
SB: I’ve asked Monet who knows how many times and still haven’t gotten a response. We probably won’t do anything crazy, just go somewhere nice to eat and enjoy our time together. We’ll find something fun to do.
Everyone enjoys Valentine’s Day in their own way, be that a fancy dinner or just cuddling up in front of Netflix with your favorite food. This year do not be afraid to do your own thing and make the night truly special for both of you.
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